My manager is asking me politely to resign... Should I report it? Is there any law I can use against them?
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@OP I finally reported it and we are going to take IBM to court. I gathered all the emails and we submitted the accusation. See you soon in the court IBM!
@cb WTF, this manager sounds like they’re using this person. They are not gods! They’re looking out for their own interests and their own hidden personal agendas. This manager is clearly using this person as a pawn for their own personal self benefit.
@OP, there is absolutely nothing “polite” about that request. How “polite” is it when you can’t make your payments or pay your bills because of it? You definitely won’t think it’s polite when you’re nine months into trying to find a new job. Don’t let guilt or pressure push you into something that benefits them at your expense. Fight back and resist it. This is very much a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
@OP Ask the manager to e-mail you the request and you'll reply. The reply I'd use is RA me get the severance and print out the e-mail or forward it to your personal e-mail for the documentation
Treat it as a toxic work environment and proceed accordingly.
Update resume, start applying to other jobs, and take something that is an upgrade to your current position. Meaning, compensation upgrade. If its at the same level or lower, don't take it. Hold out, because it may be better to wait to get severance if you force their hand.
Other than that, I echo what others have said. Document everything. Get everything in writing, and at this point, if this is happening in voice communication, I would say start recording your manager conversations secretly in case you need to use this for employment law evidence in the worst possible case.
However, your focus should be updating your resume and looking for an upgraded opportunity. If you have that opportunity upgrade, give them what they want and take that new opportunity and simply give them your 2 weeks notice before the start of your new opportunity.
@c7 correct our managers know best and you should never second guess their judgement. They are our gods and should be worshipped for always putting their own needs aside to make sure our needs are met
Yeah I would resign. Sounds like a really good manager and respect their last order
Bob says, use me to hack their email and blackmail them.
Well, as long as they are asking politely, what's the harm in a little voluntary resignation among friends?
@OP So, most likely, you’ve been marked in one way or another. I’m sorry, it su-ks, and you probably don’t deserve it.
Have you already been put on Low Performer or a PIP? If not, don’t be surprised if it suddenly happens. It’ll hurt your pride, and it may be completely unjustified, but now is the time to protect yourself.
Ask this request to be put in writing. If they won’t, document the conversation yourself and consider recording it. Save everything: previous performance reviews, emails praising your work, accomplishments, awards, project documentation anything that establishes your actual performance.
And start applying elsewhere immediately. Don’t wait for the PIP or LP designation to happen before protecting your options.
This advice applies to anyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation. If you have reason to believe you’re being targeted or your performance is being unfairly characterized, start documenting and protecting yourself now not after the damage is done.
No don’t make that life easier
There are some employees with work history that makes hard to fire using PIP process. Managers will play the game to entice them to leave with no compensation. The more for Alvind.
@OP document every conversation with the useless POS manager.
Simply don't resign. Wait until they lay you off so that you can collect unemployment benefits. If you resign, you get nada.